Day 430: The MEANing in ConSequence

(Missing blog  429 walked privately for now.)

I have already attempted this redefinition, recently though I found myself in a position where I saw clearly that I still have definitions attached to this word that do not mean what the word itself means and I act them out, which is unacceptable and not who I want to be.

Here is the dictionary definition of this word

1. a result or effect of some previous occurrence

2. an unpleasant result (esp in the phrase take the consequences)

3. (Logic) significance or importance: it's of no consequence; a man of consequence.

4. (Logic) logic

 a. a conclusion reached by reasoning

b. the conclusion of an argument

c. the relations between the conclusion and the premises of a valid argument

5. the relation between an effect and its cause

6. in consequence as a result

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

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con•se•quence (ˈkɒn sɪˌkwɛns, -kwəns)

n.

1. the effect, result, or outcome of something occurring earlier.

2. the conclusion reached by a line of reasoning; inference.

3. importance or significance: a matter of no consequence.

4. importance in rank or position; distinction: a man of consequence.

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When I looked this word up on the dictionary I was very surprised to not find its 'negative meaning' and wondered where did I get that, how did I place a negative charge on this word, so I looked it up in Italian and I found it has additional meanings where it is explicitly said 'effects, direct or indirect, usually of a negative nature' as in repercussions or negative result of something.

'Effetto diretto o indiretto, spesso negativo, di una situazione, vista come causa sicura o possibile: questo guaio è la c. della tua leggerezza; se la sono cavata senza gravi conseguenze'

I found out as well that we lack the last meaning of this word, we cannot say 'a man of consequence' because that wouldn't mean anything in Italian and that if I clean this word out of all the rubbish, it just means effect as in cause and effect, meaning what comes after a cause in a logical sequence of events.

My relatives always used the word Consequence to mean 'something negative will follow if you do this, you can't even imagine what's in store for you if you do this - meaning, what we will do to you', they used it as a threat, a warning, on occasion, when playing nice, a veiled way to say that something would be coming out of my actions and would not be good and mainly it would be coming FROM them.

When I was in SA and one day Leila read out loud an article on parenting about how parents were abusing this word to 'train their children through punishments they had replaced consequences with and how this screwed up in the child the whole concept of what a 'consequence' is' - I had a blip moment and could not compute.

I asked her to please give me an example and she did, she read the article that said 'you can tell your children that if they write on the wall there will not be chocolate cake', and I went, yes, wouldn't that be a consequence, like if you do this - that will happen?' and she said NO, the consequence is that the wall will be dirty and you will either have to live with it or clean it.

At the time this was a revelation in logic for me, a revolution in fact which left me quite pissed off as I pondered how many times I had been punished with the whimsical fantasies of my educators rather than shown what consequences really are, supported to see what I would have to face if I took a specific action and asked if I was willing to live out the 'obvious outsome', the con-sequence (which taking con as the Latin prefix meaning 'together with' it would mean the 'string of events' leading up to a specific result) and how I had attached a truckload of negative value to this word.

So, in a discussion with my buddy, what I saw is that I still live out this definition, that I believe that consequences are la -re -mise-en-place of someone who has gone off line, who has wandered out of a construct without permission and needs to be put back where they are supposed to be, put back in 'their place', obviously this treatment includes myself.

The way I have played out my consequences so far is by subjecting myself to self judgement as I have already written or to negative emotions, such as guilt, shame, self blame, something to remind myself that I was wrong, that I SHOULDN'T have done a specific thing and of course, as I do it to myself, I do it to others as well, when I reach a specific point of reaction something snaps into 'that's it, they should have seen it coming' meaning it's 'Their consequence, they created it for themselves' when in fact it is not, it is my punishment, consequence doesn't mean that if I am called names I have carte blanche to retaliate as a consequence, no, it means the other person will have to face their own self created consequences, their Dis-h-Onesty, where at a fork (H) they chose the Mind over Life and in the process they disempowered themselves a little further - and isn't that 'enough'- and should not be anything coming through a vigilante stance on my side as a punishment, where did I get this from, what kind of support would that be?

So, in my next blog I will redefine this word to something that works for myself and others because this way it's not working, this is how I have justified all the self abuse and the abuse of others as a consequence, which was a sequence yes, of my own participation in and as the mind and the living out of this word I have myself accepted and allowed to come to life in very specific ways, but it was a con as well, the con in the idea that as I have had to take con-sequences from others who themselves miss-understood this word, I could now apply to others the same punishing principle in the same way, when in fact this is not how and what this process is all about, acceptance of things as they have always been, nono, this process is about changing what I have been and done that was not aligned to the kind of world I would like to live in, even when I realize I don't yet know how to walk out of this word and my perception and embodiment of it but I will work it out as I go, as I rewrite it to break it down and turn it into a functional self supportive/supportive word for myself and all, Equal and One.

more to come  

 

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Day 320: Spoilt Words - Spoil Worth

We live in a polarity construct where everything exists in opposition to another point, we know this from all walks of life, we explained it through Bhuddism, philosophy, religion even language teaching as we oppose words when we teach, fat/thin, young/old, beuatiful/ugly and in words oposition we can already see the negative and positive charge of each word that exist, good to be thin, bad to be fat, good to be beautiful, bad to be ugly etc.

Words have lost their original meaning as descriptive tools and have become defining tools, taking on new MEANings that we overimposed on them through memories and emotional experiences of ourselves and those that lived before us.

Everyone is familiar with the experience of reacting to specific words, we always say 'and then she/he said that - and I went beserk', making the 'other' responsible for our own reactions, missing the point that those words exist within us, as us and they are just crapped up and no longer able to flow to deliver just a meaning that gives context to a moment in time, a relationship, a situation so that we can understand each other and coexist in peace and harmony.

Today I had a realization about words that connects to religion and religious beliefs (which I always saw as one of the origins of our troubles) and our apparent desire and ultimately the need to imprint a child with the knowledge of good and bad - for their own good you know, so they may navigate this Earth knowing what to do-, yet, by the time we attempt to download the religious crap into children we have already divided their Minds into polarities by downloading the exact MEANing of each word we offer to them as a tool to self express as a clone of the way WE perceive/perceived the word/the world, just as we lived it, filled with emotions and feelings that gave birth to an energetic experience first inside of us and then within the child that will then never be able to take a word/the world for what it is, but will live the word and the world in separation within the duality of experiences lived by others, loaded and contained into words/wards as the gift we give them to walk this earth with tools, no matter how distorted the tools are or how evil filled the words we passed on have become, we believe we are in fact passing on something valuable to the new generations, when in fact we are just imprinting the past into the future to make sure no one ever gets out of here, out of the delusion of the multiple characters we have come to embody and believe to be real.

Imagine if children could learn words for what they are and not for what they have been and become for us: experiences with labels attached that define them and us into loopholes from where there is no escape and so the point of religion in the face of what we do with words way before moving on to the religious belief system download is in fact irrelevant, because the problem of good and bad starts way before that, the key to the problems we live is in our words, religious belief are nothing but an outflow of our duality within words that are no longer alive but just energy that lives off the memories that we keep passing on to one another, because see, anything else we teach children has to come through the words we use to give the in-formation, to form them into what we have already been and proved to not be effective and what a gift of LOVE that is, hei.

Now look at this, when you read the word LOVE how many things moved within you? Those things that moved are preprogrammed patterned reactions, LOVE for example is a GOOD word, HATE is a BAD word, the emotional feeling content of each word exists within each one of us together with the word, so words become lifeless, just titles on a filing cabinet and we become the ultimate filing system as we exist to capture and file information, we keep ourselves informed, keep loading up crap through words that are themselves prisoners of energetic charges and that we are unwilling to set free, enslaving them with the result of becoming enslaved, a point some understood well and use to sell us things we don't need or care for but that we MUST HAVE the minute we are activated into the desire for an imaginary experience that we have attached to a word.

So now to get us to buy products, advertisers will connect a product to the word 'LOVE' and there we go, little robots prompted to want the experience we have attached to the word, seeking the energetic value of the experience for the chance to relate to something within a contest established by 1 WORD and then we live the illusion of Freedom, we tell ourselves that we have the Free Choice to buy into something or not, when in fact we have no choice but to follow the yellow brick road to what we desire and have secretly, and sometimes even unknowingly, suppressed.

Ultimately it's all fair, we get what we give, as we gave to the children of this world no choice but to be imprinted with the Spoilt Words of ourselves as ourselves, we spoiled Their Worth that existed prior to our faulty downloads and caged them into a jail of past experiences from which they can't find their way out if not by acting out and trying to release some of the energies we passed on to them as they search desperately for some stability within themselves, the one we denied to them when we took it away and exchanged it for the MEAN-ing-FULL words we defined them and their lives to be as ourselves.

So, how do we start to  raise children that can become effective humans?

We have to purify ourselves, we have to purify the words we speak and live as ourselves, so that our vocabulary stands beyond and above energetic experiences as who we are, so that we mean what we say and understand words as one as ourselves vs their limited energy loaded version that we came to believe to be who we really are.

We must get this right, we either live our fore bearers past and bring it back to life through 'their words' that became 'our words' or we clean up our act, redefine what living and existence is in alignment to what is best for all, remove the experiences and memories of ourselves and others from our vocabulary so we stand a chance to create a life for ourselves that is not the carbon copy, the clone of all the lives lived before, we let go of the memory bank where words exist within a dual accountancy system and set them free and as we give back to words as ourselves the freedom to exist beyond energy and energetic memories and experiences, so we grant to ourselves the same right, in oneness and equality, to start new, to start the blank slate on which we will write ourselves as words and a new future for Humanity and the Earth that won't be compromised by what has been, but will be able to embrace what should have been, as we forgive what we have accepted and allowed within this existence to move ourselves, this World and all of existence beyond the limitations we cast on them and ourselves and set all Life Free.

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